It seems odd, wrong even, that “patience” and “passion” — the twin roots of love — should share a root in pāti, Latin for “to suffer.” But anyone who has lived, who has loved unskillfully or loved the unskilled, knows that the experience can be our sharpest instrument of suffering. We say we “fall” in…
“Words are events, they do things, change things. They transform both speaker and hearer; they feed energy back and forth and amplify it. They feed understanding or emotion back and forth and amplify it,” Ursula K. Le Guin wrote in her exquisite manifesto for the magic of real human conversation. Each word is a portable…
When success feels impossible, people often turn to tearing others down. Crab bucket mentality reveals how resentment, competition, and envy keep everyone stuck. Much of American culture prides itself on its individualism and self-reliance. The “American Dream” teaches us that as long as you work hard and make smart choices, anyone can become successful, make…
“It wouldn’t have been failure to be bankrupt, dishonoured, pilloried, hanged; it was failure not to be anything.” “The things we want are transformative, and we don’t know or only think we know what is on the other side of that transformation,” Rebecca Solnit wrote in her exquisite Field Guide to Getting Lost. The wanting…
After the murder of Michael Brown, protests took place which led to additional conflicts between citizens and police. Initially, the police met the protestors like an invading army: many officers were in military gear and backed up by armored vehicles. Militarized and brutal responses to protests have occurred repeatedly. As noted in my previous essay,…
Analog living is the answer to digital overwhelm. Analog living requires extra boundaries around your phone and other digital engagement and a little hope and curiosity. I recently covered my kitchen table with brown craft paper, and… The post I Stopped Reaching for My Phone and Started Reaching for This appeared first on Be More…
Stop simply living in your head. Learn how micro-practices of physical attunement can calm your nervous system, reduce cognitive stress, and help you truly inhabit your life.
Although it is less studied, child neglect has been shown to result in greater severity of depression than physical or sexual abuse.
If your sexual desire for a beautiful stranger disappears once you’re in a relationship with them, you are not broken. You could be a fraysexual.
Before estrangement occurs, there are often small but important signs of the seismic shift that may occur.
