Accept Children As They Are
Were you ever told as a child that you were too much, or that you were not enough? This is a common—and painful—experience for many of us. Heal the hurt and break the pattern.
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The present moment has no marshmallow
Last year the Zen philosopher Seth Zuihō Segall invited me to speak to a course on seven universal virtues, on the topic of self-discipline or temperance. I want to return here to the point that I think was most important in that talk: there’s an apparent contradiction between the virtues of self-discipline and mindfulness (at…
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‘Snacks’ That Go Way Beyond Food
In a rut? “Snacks” could help. Forego the potato chips for snacks that feed the mind, body, and soul instead.
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How Hollywood’s Teen Movies Get Adolescence Wrong
I’ll show you why Hollywood’s teen movies get adolescence so wrong—and introduce five films that actually get it right, psychology and all.
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Antidepressant Withdrawal: Can I Ever Get Off This Medication?
About half of patients who try to discontinue antidepressant treatment experience distressing withdrawal reactions. Specific strategies are presented that enable discontinuation.
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Why Should We Care Psychological Safety?
You might have heard about psychological safety. What does it really mean, and why should we care about it?
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Enchantment and the Courage of Joy: René Magritte on the Antidote to the Banality of Pessimism
“Life is wasted when we make it more terrifying, precisely because it is so easy to do so.” In a world pocked by cynicism and pummeled by devastating news, to find joy for oneself and spark it in others, to find hope for oneself and spark it in others, is nothing less than a countercultural…
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Homelessness
In the United States, the number of homeless shelters increased in the 1980s due to a variety of factors (mostly Reagan). One factor was a recession which resulted in more people being unable to afford housing. A second factor was a shift away from single room housing. Though limited in size, this was cheaper than…
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A Private Online Therapy Guide for Starting Gently
This private online therapy guide explains what to expect, how privacy works, and how to choose calm, compassionate support at your own pace, with care.
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How to Hold the Darkness: Notes on Living Through Uncertainty
There are times in life when the continent of certainty parts underfoot and, as the ash cloud of the old world rains darkness upon us, we are asked to swim in the rivers of lava that will make the new. “Almost it would appear that it is useless in such confusion to ask,” wrote Virginia…
